3 Powerful Ways to Make Your Ex Miss You Without Contact (2023)

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Updated June 9, 2021

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   Sara

   December 20, 2021 at 3:41 am

   Help! I deleted my ex from social media to let my mind heal. Would it be too obvious to leave my profile's privacy public so he can see my posts (if he's lurking)?

   Your website put my mind at ease! Thanks again

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   December 22, 2021 at 11:54 p.m

   Hi Sarah, it's not too obvious as long as your social media posts are UG and positive. Be careful not to spam or change your default settings too quickly.

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   Bhavin

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   Nov 22, 2021 at 4:07 am

   Well me and my ex in long distance relationship for about 9 months in March, she broke up with me and explained my behavior and her past failed relationship. Well I really tried to stop her but in April I decided to leave her I left and didn't contact her for 4 or 5 months. I only contacted her on her birthday and wanted her to reply quickly and we started talking again. He confessed that he was sorry for leaving me and that he wanted to get back together. We started dating again, but after 1-2 months she spoke again and said that being best friends is better than a couple, but it was difficult for me and we argued twice about this topic . Well I really love this girl I don't know what to do we both have a good connection and we really want to spend the rest of our lives with her...

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   bethany

   April 3, 2021 at 7:21 am

   I was with this guy. Mainly physics, but we also talk a lot. In early March I called him too many times and after a week he told me why he wasn't calling and that he needed space. I kept calling and texting him so many messages that he ended up blocking my phone. I've called too many from the home phone again. From time to time he texted me to stop calling him. I ignored him and at the end of March he called me and told me that he would unblock me when he was ready but that everything I did was taking me a long time. I cut off contact. But I'm really scared he won't come back because we were friends and sometimes friends with benefits. We're still friends on certain apps.

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   felisha

   December 5, 2020 at 3:20 p.m

   Hi Chris, I just broke up with my boyfriend a week ago and want to do the 30 days NC.
   But I have a question, should I be the one to text him first after the NC or should I wait for him to text? And what do I do if he doesn't send it?

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   December 14, 2020 at 9:27 p.m

   Hi Felisha, if you want him back you need to contact your ex and start watching the show.

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   CJ

   December 3, 2020 at 1:52 am

   So my ex and I were together for about 6 months. We've known each other for almost 5 years and we've always had a connection but we haven't dated yet (long story), we met this summer and started dating and dating a lot. Etc. We didn't fight much but the few times it was UGLY. He gets very angry and I end up crying. I always wanted to sit down and set ground rules for our fights and how to fight fairly and avoid that, but that didn't happen. We went out one night and had a great time, but then we were very, very tired and struggling with alcohol. It sucked but instead of staying I went home and had to work in a few hours. He called me on the way home and we ended up on an almost happy ending when we hung up. The next day I sent him a long message and something I said (misunderstanding) triggered him and he broke up with me. We kept talking, I went to his house that night and he didn't want to come back because he thought we'd never get over our arguments. We still hung out a decent amount of times but not as often without kissing etc. He cried the night he broke up with me and kept saying how sad he was but that it had to be had to... he doesn't show his feelings properly and he's been hurt by a lot of people, so there are thick walls. I was at his house two weeks ago and he was super grumpy. I just wanted to talk about something and he wanted to watch TV and he didn't feel like doing anything else. It hurt me because I was going through a lot (two deaths in my area, health problems, I was in the hospital, a lot of stress at work etc.) and I used what little free time I had to visit him and he did 'T I don't care He told me we have to break up because I was crying. I told him I wanted to sit down and talk and work out our issues (which are pretty minor, we get along very well most of the time and are very close), he refused to move and had a high wall of no emotion and said I'm going. He said we could sit down and talk when I was free again. He was beyond hurt. I love him very much. But I went home and didn't contact him. Not even two days later comes close. When I left I left him a love letter that I had previously written to him and which I wanted to give him. I thought maybe he thought things through. He asked me how I was doing etc. I didn't answer for 3 days. I don't know why but I wasn't sure what to do. I wrote back on Thanksgiving Day and wished him a happy Thanksgiving. He told .e about something funny that happened and after a few messages he stopped opening my messages. It didn't open for days, and when did it. No Answer. I contacted him a few days later to ask how he was doing. He did not answer. Then a few days later he contacted me to ask how my surgery had gone. I hadn't done it yet and I told him etc. He stopped responding. So I wrote him something funny and he replied very dry and cold. I tried calling him because I really wanted to speak to him before my surgery, things were not expected to go well...he ignored my call and I texted him asking if he could could call if I had a second. He totally ignored me.
   Her mom and I are friends (not close), she invited me to paint with her and said I just drank too much. He doesn't show his emotions well and is more likely to be angry than sad or emotional.
   I try to be non-contact and work where I am. I am struggling with my very difficult surgery (it has been postponed) and the holidays and I would really like to speak to him and hope everything is ok. I don't know if I'll hear from him again. I know you care, but you show it very poorly. I won't make contact until he's around? or can i contact you He also goes back to school, 3.5 hours there without a vehicle and I don't have 2 consecutive days off together so I'm worried if I wait too long we won't be fine.
   I'd appreciate any advice or perspective on this. I know space can be good. I know I've had a lot of blank stuff lately and he's on a losing streak struggling to figure out where he is in his life.

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   December 23, 2020 at 6:13 p.m

   Hi CJ, from what you said above, you can start contacting your ex after going 30 days without contact.

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   Lis Bailey

   Nov 17, 2020 @ 6:26am

   What if you needed to change your number while out of touch? (Left of Country) Should you make him believe you are no longer available or contact him to let him know your number has changed?

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   November 17, 2020 at 10:53 p.m

   You can contact your NC with your new number

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   Vicky

   November 2, 2020 at 8:48 p.m

   What if you re-add your ex on social media during NC? is this a break

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   November 2, 2020 at 9:02 p.m

   Yes, that breaks contactless

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   Juan Smith

   October 23, 2020 at 7:00 a.m

   My ex and I recently broke up, she still likes my posts even though we don't talk, that's a good sign.

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   October 24, 2020 at 9:15 p.m

   I wouldn't say it's a bad sign.

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   RK

   July 26, 2020 at 2:55 p.m

   Hello my ex again and I had a huge argument on July 1st. We stayed in an LDR (I Canadian, he Mexican). He said he just wanted friendship but he said loving things to me and we met in November 2019. I'm NC 25. I was angry because he was distant and suspected he was dating other women. I said some pretty nasty things to him and now I feel bad... but so does he. I'm not sure, can NC work in this situation? I only have it on whatsapp and it didn't delete or block me. Thanks

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   Aug 2, 2020 at 10:03 am

   Hi RK, yes you should do the longer NC version for 45 days and then start contacting the lyrics Chris suggests in his articles.

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    maria garcia

    July 24, 2020 at 3:14 p.m

    Hi my ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me a little over a week ago it was the worst feeling ever. We always had fun together and made a lot of happy memories and we were inseparable, I had no complaints about him and the only problem we had was we argued a lot and I lost control which I felt because of the way , hated the way I approached him. Things. I was trying to keep my composure as he cried and told me how sorry he was for taking me home that night and we had a hard time saying goodbye. A few days later he changed his relationship status and profile photo on Facebook but kept our photos. However, I got very restless and started thinking about the same day and called him and he explained that he thought it was better that way. I'm under no illusions when I see this. I explained how I felt, then he apologized and said he didn't mean to hurt me. I was having a hard time getting off the phone, I thought I could talk him out of it but he just got angrier. Later that day my anxiety was killing me, so I texted his phone and called him a few times. Then he blocked me on the phone. I went on facebook to tell him i'm sorry for bothering him and to let him know i will work on me and just to reply to my message he replied the next morning and said he's sorry he didn't call me. but that he thought it best that we didn't keep in touch, that he had made his decision and that he was glad to know that I would take care of myself but that I would please respect his decision. I was heart broken but also realizing that I shouldn't beg and that it would only push him further away so I didn't answer and started the no contact rule and haven't contacted him since. It's been about a week since I last contacted you. After 3 days of no contact I started posting on social media, I changed my look. And I changed my profile photo and relationship status, the next day I see he deleted all our photos from Instagram and Facebook. I have followed the no contact rule but I am very scared when and if he will contact me or maybe he is really done with our relationship. I love him with all my heart and I know he does too. I really want him to realize that I'm working on myself. I want it back, I really need some advice.

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   August 8, 2020 at 10:40 p.m

   Hello Maria, if you work on yourself and bring your fear under better control, then you are on the right track. Make sure you use social media to show that you're living life etc. And if your ex is curious, they'll want to check out what you're doing to yourself. Think of it as a window into how you're doing without him.

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    Tiffany Busch

    July 22, 2020 at 12:40 p.m

    My girlfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago. I tried not to contact...probably about 10 times but in the end I gave up. One day he called me 149 times! We ended up breaking up because she kicked me out to sleep with another girl. Since then I haven't been home. I rented a new apartment and have been heartbroken ever since. He's still in touch with that other girl. She told me that the reason she did what she did was because she was very hurt by my actions 2 years ago and she should have left me then. He literally said my actions had consequences and that was a consequence! I still have stuff in her house that she doesn't want to give me because "she's tired of putting up with me and she'll decide when I can get it." I'm not worried about the belongings, it's about getting them back and making this relationship work the way it should have worked before all of this happened. How can I successfully not keep in touch when she keeps rejecting me (usually to blame me for something or to tell me she misses me) and I've blocked her on social media? Help!!

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   Aug 8, 2020 at 10:46 p.m

   Hi Tiffany, my honest opinion is that you should turn your back on the way he treated you. But after a no contact where they blow up your phone it takes real self-control, you literally ignore them, you can mute their number so they don't alert you when they call, just say it missed you call there. There is an option to mute them on social media etc. Honestly you just have to be strong and keep going and I suggest sticking with 45 days because she jumped into bed with someone else right away.

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    Rooney

    June 24, 2020 at 7:29 p.m

    I started nc...but the first day when his usual message came about what I'm even doing...I politely told him I needed to process our work and focus on myself. To which he replied yes...take care and if you need anything I'm just a phone call away. And after that we don't talk. Only a day has passed since then
    But I doubt...
    am i wrong to say that? nc will keep working on it?

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   June 27, 2020 at 8:48 p.m

   Hello Runi, yes you can use your social networks to show that you are doing very well and you are not upset. And stay with an NC for 45 days, and that includes social media stalking on your part

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    save on computer

    Apr 28, 2020 at 4:39 am

    Hallo

    So me and my ex broke up about 3 months ago. We were together 7 years, we broke up before because I went to school and had a busy schedule and when I came home at the weekend I was exhausted and just needed space to relax. We broke up for the first time in 6 months. We tried again in the fall semester of my senior year. It didn't work out, we fought a lot, he was mad at me for not being available and I was mad at him for not giving me time off since I was taking 18 credit hours (biology major). He eventually started ignoring me, I pursued him unconditionally, sent him sad sad love letters, took a 24-day break from contact. I got in touch on the 25th due to the COVID-19 outbreak, my university has postponed our graduation ceremony. I had reserved tickets for him and his brother, I felt it was an "emergency" enough to let him know. We talked for a couple of weeks, I really managed to heal myself in those 24 days. We met one day, rather by accident, when I brought up the subject he said he wanted to be friends, he wasn't looking for a relationship right now, he was concentrating on work, he should be concentrating on me, blah blah blah.
    So I looked you in the eye very calmly and said, "I respect your reasons for ending things, I understand that you don't want to be in a relationship with me anymore, but I'm not ONLY going to be your friend, I want that more than." that." . So if you just want to "just be friends" please respect my wishes and don't contact me for a while, I want to put this behind me. If you change your mind, please let me know.
    We hugged briefly and he watched me get in the car and drive away. I was looking ahead, not looking back (dead, I have no idea how I couldn't burst into tears). That evening he blew up my phone, invited me out for coffee and I said yes. Then 2 weeks later, COVID hit, many people in his team at work were laid off, it became very hectic. I brought coffee again, he said he forgot a few hours later, I asked him if he was still interested in someday being more than just friends.
    He said, "I'm not looking for a relationship right now, so no."
    He added, "It's so busy, I don't know what I want." I didn't reply and he texted me another hour later and said, "Look, you're not talking to me now!"
    So I said, "I mean, you said no, what exactly do you want?"
    He said, "I don't know," and I didn't answer. That was on April 23rd, 2020. Thought I could do NC again, turned off all my social media accounts, put our group chat on silent with our mutual friends. My goal is to completely cut myself out of his life, see if he misses me, and maybe make up my mind by then.
    I'm sad and confused, I feel like he's confused too, but maybe I'm the one giving him more credit than he deserves.

    My final thoughts and questions: I will be graduating in May, it has been postponed due to COVID but I plan to take photos in my graduation gown + cap and send out announcements. Also, my birthday is in May (10 days after graduation). What should I say or do when he extends his hand with "congratulations", "happy birthday", etc.? A friend of mine advised me to keep the "thank you" short and let him do the talking. I'm really not sure what to do, I miss him so much. I also feel that there is still a lot of love between us and my gut feeling tells me that it's not over forever. Any advice would be great (sorry it's so long!)

    I love all the work you do!

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   May 5, 2020 at 9:53 p.m

   Hi Sav, if he contacts you during NC you ignore him. If he doesn't say the words he wants back, don't break NC for no reason. Work on your Holy Trinity and stay positive online as much as you can

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    Steve

    Jan 9, 2020 @ 1:24am

    After 15 years, my wife and I will have no contact the day after we filed for separation. I love her very much and she says I've become a much better man over the past few years, but her hardened heart won't let me in. I was a mean and abusive husband to her and my stepsons from 2005 to 2010. She tried to get me counseling etc. I tried to communicate but didn't know what he was talking about. About 4 years after living together I was passive day to day without getting the message that I was ready to go. Finally she left. I was devastated but still passive that she would find herself the way she said she would and she was very comfortable having me available as a husband and father to her and her children. At the end of 2017 we used to go in and out of the same house. I had an Ea last year that I discovered and it was my catalyst. I've been counseling her for years and she's seen the changes, but her heart was so hard she couldn't let me in. Now we are communicating on a level that we should always have as a couple. A day late and a dollar short on my part. So let's start a no contact... Pray for us. I hope you do something. She says she loves me and who I am now, but she won't let me or any other man into her heart. No more.

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   Jan 11, 2020 @ 5:48am

   Good luck and I hope it works out. Remember, if you need any guidance always post here and we're here to assist you as best we can.

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    Sofia

    December 11, 2019 at 5:21 p.m

    Hello Chris,
    My 1.7 year old boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago because he said he wanted to be all alone and work on himself. He said he couldn't be in a relationship right now and that it was about him and not me because I was best friends and stuff. We would have broken up almost three weeks before this breakup because I was upset that he wasn't giving me 100%, but it wasn't until I found out on my own that he was holding back on some things and had some internal struggles that I couldn't. I could tell he was pushing him to the limit and demanding 100% even though he couldn't even give it to himself. I told him that it was okay if he wasn't fully present and that he needed to communicate and learn to open up. After today's breakup we went out last night and chatted in the moonlight on his paddle board and kissed and slept but the next morning he said it was really hard but he felt it was imperative that he just now still be. After that of course I was hurt and upset and started NC but I don't know if it's worth it if he just wants to be left alone. Please answer I really need help.

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   December 15, 2019 at 6:11 p.m

   Hello Sophia, so yes it's not worth the contact as he asked for space. You have to respect him and give it to him while showing him that you will not wait on the side and beg and beg for him. Picking yourself up and living your life like you're not upset and just fine will have a bigger impact on him, so calling him in a way that makes him cry because he wants him back is enough . He'll be more likely to be curious as to why you're not begging for another chance and make him want to talk to you more.

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    Jessi

    December 10, 2019 at 6:18 am

    Hello, I am currently living with my ex, we have been on and off on both sides for the past year due to infidelity. About 6 months ago I relocated and went to NC only to 7 days later give in to his first message to me and rush back. He has promised to change and take me to therapy when he gets home. For about the first month he kept his word and we even went to counseling together and became intimate again. Just as I felt that we were making progress in our sessions, he backed off from his commitments to me. He no longer goes to therapy with me and becomes super defensive when the subject is brought up. I also found out recently that he was watching and saving ads and escort numbers on his phone (the escorts were the source of his cheating). I feel stuck in this house should I stay on vacation and do this NC or should I just go?

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   December 14, 2019 at 11:50 p.m

   Jessie, if you have a chance to get out of the house, get out. Walk away and explain to him that you will not accept him going back to his old ways. The problem with getting back together quickly after a breakup is that the issues aren't resolved before you get back together, although it's good that they went to couples therapy it clearly hasn't worked enough to deter them, what to do same. Things you do to hurt the relationship

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    Carolina

    December 8, 2019 at 11:48 p.m

    My situation is weird, we've known each other for four weeks, we've only been together for three weeks, but we've seen each other almost every day, texted and talked constantly. On the fourth day we both said I love you, him first, and we moved on from there. I fell in love and so did he, but last week he said I was an emotional wreck and that we took the plunge too quickly and his feelings had faded. He said he was sorry and hoped he had no regrets. It's been a week and I haven't contacted him but we're still friends on FB, Snapchat, Instagram etc but no contact either. I reached out to his sister because he was very hurt...this man told me that it was me and that as Christians we both believe that God brought us together. She said he was in a rush and hadn't recovered from his last relationship, which ended in August. He didn't want to go back to her, just the end of this relationship that he was still dealing with...I'm so scared that he'll just throw that away and move on because it's only been 3 weeks...it was like that deep for me and i just don't know what to do to make him see that we can try again. We're both in our 50s...plus I miss and care for him...I want him to know I'm here...but after reading about the NC rule all over the internet I didn't know. His sister said that it has nothing to do with me and that he needs to go to a cure... what can I do so that he doesn't lose sight of me....

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   December 11, 2019 at 8:23 p.m

   Hi Caroline, There is a honeymoon phase where we get caught up in meeting someone new and believing that we "love" them. In fact, it's just lust. I think that's what they both felt at the beginning of this relationship. It was short, so it means you can keep a 21-day no contact and contact him when he's in a better place and ready to talk again, but you should approach things like a friend, not an ex And reconnect with him.

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    Carol

    December 4, 2019 at 11:50 am

    Ey,

    My boyfriend broke up with me a little over a week ago. I haven't heard from him since then. He deleted two of my photos from his Instagram but left the other four. He took this as a positive sign as he had deleted all photos of his ex girlfriend and I during his last breakup. We used to live together but now I've moved for work and we were far away. I want to work things out with him but I'm not sure if he would consider it. I was working with a 30 day NC rule. During this time I am very stressed because he is seeing other women and I don't know how to deal with it. I'll be back in the same city with him for a few days over the holidays. Should I try to see him or just not contact him when I'm in town? I used to text him a lot and now I don't do anything to communicate with him, so I hope that shows him that I've really worked on myself. any advice? How do I know if this breakup is permanent?

    Gracias.

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   December 6, 2019 at 8:33 p.m

   Hi Carol, no you don't contact him when you're in town, make him wonder why you haven't tried to see him. Stick to the schedule and plan and you can brace yourself for the best chance of getting him back, but you must take positive steps and follow the instructions, starting with not contacting or responding to him during the out-of-contact period.

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    London

    Nov 9, 2019 at 4:26 p.m

    We were together for five years. I'm not even sure who ended the relationship or why we disagreed on a few things and we both felt like the other was completely gross and wrong and should apologize. I have no contact on day 35 of 45 days. I haven't heard anything (and I'm still blocked on WhatsApp) but my son (whose stepdad he is) kept in touch with him and went out to eat with him and bought him a nice present. I hope that keeping my daughter sane is her way of holding the door open for the relationship to resume (many men close the door on their sons when they close the door on their mother, right?). On the one hand, she is stubborn and afraid of rejection. But on the other hand, it worries me that I'm assuming he's still taking care of me because he's still taking care of my son, when in reality he might just be a decent guy who understands that none of that is to blame my daughter is, but he is happier alone. As time goes by, the better I feel about myself, my life, and him as a person, and the more I wonder if I missed the window period to get closer. Should I have no contact for the next 10 days for the best chance of success?

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   November 9, 2019 at 8:21 p.m

   Hi London, yes continue your NC to 45 and contact him as a friend. I know you are blocked for some media but can you contact him with a normal text without using whatsapp? Or even a Facebook messenger. Just make sure you don't talk about missing him, the relationship, or the breakup.

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    Casey

    November 8, 2019 at 12:08 am

    Hi Chris, my ex and I were exclusively together for five months. 3 weeks ago, after a disagreement, he suddenly asked for a seat and I agreed. He told me that he would like to see me change and take care of each other. I have rshp insecurities because I had a failed marriage not too long ago. He was very sweet and loving to me and made an effort to prioritize me by hanging out with me every weekend. We also call each other affectionate.

    However, due to my insecurities, I sometimes “pushed” him. And when I found out he was adding new girls to his Instagram I went to meet them. He claimed it was a mutual friend. When he added another new girl three weeks ago, I confronted him and the dissatisfaction we had was the last drop in "going back to friends".

    However, he asked to meet a week later, but it was his first date after lunch. I knew I was already meeting someone new and that day we were also a little unlucky that I broke down. After that we didn't speak to each other for a week. I wanted to try NC but since his birthday was on 10/28 I decided to send him a message to celebrate for him. A week ago he had already expressed an interest in celebrating with me on this day.

    On his birthday we went to this lovely place for lunch. I put on my best clothes and smiled in the best possible way. I knew he probably didn't want to spend the rest of the day with me. We chatted over lunch but he was too busy on his phone because he was probably getting a lot of birthday wishes. After lunch he said he wanted to go home (which I didn't believe but I accepted and prepared for that day because I just wanted to leave a good memory). After that, when he left, I messaged him and sent him the photos we took. I said 'I wish you all the best and the best and I said come December if you don't have girlfriend yet I hope you can help me celebrate my birthday as a friend. I told him to watch out and he put in a happy Smiley Cox, I just wanted to end things on a positive note.

    Later at the same time I posted it on our personal Facebook page (just for the two of us who created). I also told him, "Thank you for the wonderful trip so far and I sincerely appreciate that even though it was a short celebration, I was happy to spend it with him."

    He hasn't responded since 10/28. I think I would at least answer. My pillow and shoes are still in his car, which didn't go with him.

    One day later. He suddenly posted a photo of his birthday party on Instagram. He rarely posts only now and then on ig. She wrote a caption about something very sad and thanked the "new girl" (with her initials) for the photo credit. My heart sank when I saw the photo.

    Since then I have been doing NC and have also signed up for new courses. Cox, I've been so down for the last two weeks it's heartbreaking. Not sure if I should go ahead with NC even though he was the one who didn't respond. I expect nothing more than to at least end things on a positive note. Please advise me, thanks!

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   EWC Team Member: Shaunna

   November 8, 2019 at 9:32 p.m

   Hey, you're doing the right thing, but sometimes things like this take time. So keep doing the same things you do and post positive things on your social media. That said if he thinks about you and checks on you he will see that you are doing great in your life without him, after NC you can catch up but do it like a friend you are meeting new. Don't expect to pick up where you left off.

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